I wonder why people call marriage a settlement?
Why do you have to settle after marriage?
Aysha (r) grew from a simple woman to a great poet, scholar and a role model for us after her marriage with prophet Muhammed(s).Yes. She grew up as a person!
Why does the society insist on portraying marriage “the end” of one’s amazing free life?
Why do they expect people to fall into a life of adynamic routine after marriage?
The very thought of a typical housewife in Kerala freaks me out. She wakes up with the sun , cooks, cleans , make us all ready for our daily routine, cooks again and again,prays and its all late night by then. What about the purpose of life? What about discovering oneself? No wonder she tries different recipes , finds happiness in gossips and shopping. A fresh breeze would be ,beyond doubt,wonderful.
It’s not different for a “family” man. He has a different routine but it also consists of the same things to do everyday.
Isnt it pathetic that we are often ignorant and indifferent to them when they try to put up a conversation with us while we are busy with very unnecessary trifles.
Is marriage, children or rather having a family , the expiration of one’s thirst to develop himself? The end to one’s desire to enjoy and relish every day of life?
Every young human would have had incredible views about life. Everybody lives a special life! Why do they have to give it up? Family is supposed to add and not take away, glitter to the journey!
Marriage should be a gift. A partner should be someone who enables us. Who helps us live our dreams. Who keeps the fire in us in ignition. And you must be ready to do that too. One mistake everybody does is that they expect the person they marry to not change. Indians always freak out when their partners changes their likes, hobbies and opinions. We grow every day. How can you expect a person to be static just because they met you?
There is something about keralites. When they see old men and women tripping, experimenting stuff, basically trying to enjoy theirselves. They loathe them. Laugh at them.I have observed part of it to arise from envy. The rest I haven’t understood yet.
If you ask me one reason why human race is far behind it’s development than it must be , I would point out this prejudice of society.
As sir Paulo Coelho said, Everyone seems to have a clear idea of how other people should lead their lives, but none about his or her own.
Well, people are people.
We cannot do anything about that other than to care less.
Anyway, if you are planning of “settling” down or finding a partner,
make sure you won’t stunt yourself. Don’t give up your adventurous life, in fact, take them along to find the treasure!
And enjoy the life they live.Dream together.Be definite that you will enable the person you meet to blossom into a great and significant person of the world.